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  • Thank you for this discussion ladies, it seems like it's not just me - it's terrible! I get something I can only refer to as 'feeling fuzzy'...it's a combination of dizziness, headache and vertigo? I mentioned this to my GP a couple months back but never realised this could be related to the menopause.
  • Thank you! I'd love to know how everyone copes on the relationships front. I just don't know how to talk to my partner about the menopause. I have no idea how to bring it up and I don't want him to think I'm making excuses. For example the other day we had an argument over something totally unimportant, I just had a really…
  • Hi DIane, I'd be interested to hear your take on HRT. I've been reading a lot recently but all these types are just a little overwhelming at once. I heard that gel is the safest to use? I have a doctor's appointment soon and would like to know how to prepare best. Thank you in advance!
  • Hi Monica. I'm so sorry to hear this. It must be a very tough situation. I'm sorry I'm not really sure how to help but maybe occupying your mind is a good idea. Try to keep as busy as possible and not think of the worst. My prayers are with you xx
  • Hello Giada again, I was wondering if spotting after sex is normal? I haven't had any periods in the last year. However, this morning I noticed some light red blood. I'm a little worried. Thank you in advance.
  • @Fairy55 my husband's the same. He spends 10-11 hours on his laptop a day. He has a posture control brace and says it helps a lot.
  • So glad to hear you got the all clear. I sometimes experience the same, I can't really describe it other than saying it's all "fuzzy". I was told by my doctor that it's linked to both hormones and anxiety. For me it starts when I'm particularly stressed. I have no idea what to do about it though..
  • @SuzC I'm the same, and also I don't seem to be able to concentrate since working from home. At first I enjoyed it but it's very difficult now. Make sure to take regular breaks. I always go for a walk at lunch which definitely helps. Thank you Shanley for these resources, seems super useful I will look into them this…
  • Hi Shanley, thank you for this opportunity, it's great to have a professional on board. My biggest problem is difficulty concentrating. It's the absolute worst at work. I'm currently working from home and my brain just gives up after a couple of hours. After lunch I simply cannot focus on anything properly really. It's…
  • Hi @SuzC I feel the same. I sometimes use rescue remedy if I feel stressed and i think it helps a little. You can do this x
  • Thank you @Diane Porterfield-Bourne. I haven't talked to my GP about the menopause but I'm planning to after lockdown hopefully. I recently started struggling with sleep, I keep waking up at 3am prompt every single night. I have no idea why but it makes me so tired in the day...
    in UTIs Comment by Mary78 November 2020
  • Hi @LizzyB73 I was wondering if you had time to consider my question on dealing with aches, any advice would be much appreciated please
  • Hi @shreya, I think you should give your doctor a call. I was told cramps and bleeding together can be a strong sign of pregnancy loss, but not always. Do you still have these symptoms? I was looking around this site and found this: When I noticed bleeding I called 111. THey were helpful and put me at ease.
  • I'm so sorry you're going through this Lydia, it's an absolutely heart-breaking situation to be in. I'd definitely recommend counselling. Opening up is not easy but asking for professional help was the best decision my husband and I made after losing our son. You could try talking to your GP first and see if they can refer…
  • I'm reading all the question s and feel like I can relate to so many. Are utis related to menopause too? I had no idea. @Julie20 sometimes I just get a bottle of cranberry juice, even when I'm all fine..I keep telling myself it's for preventive purposes.:D
    in UTIs Comment by Mary78 October 2020
  • oh that's fantastic to hear! I don't have hot flushes (yet lol), but can get extremely irritated for no reason...also keep forgetting things which affects my work. I'm working fomr home and it's hard to stay motivated.
  • Thank you Diane for your advice, I just got a SAD light. Waiting for it to be delivered now! I don't really have mood swings (yet haha) but I noticed I tend to get snappy for no reason. Is this also related? I also have headaches but not sure if that's a symptom either.
  • Hi Amber, just wanted to say I watched your video about diets and I found it very helpful. Thank you so much. I'd love your advice on managing aches & pains please, sometimes my entire body just aches. Is there anything I can eat that's naturally anti-inflammatory / that could help? I read salmon and berries are very good…
  • Hi Liz, I'm looking for something to help with aches & pains. Sometimes my entire body aches. Is there a cream that would help and is safe to use after surgery? I also am thinking about getting one of these microwavable wheat wraps. Do you have any experience with this please? Thank yu so much in advance
  • Hi Diane, I'm relatively new here. I'm looking for some advice on dealing with seasonal sadness / feeling low. I feel on edge most of the time but as it's getting darker outside, my anxiety gets worse. Is there anything natural I can try? I heard a lot about these weighted blankets and SAD lamps...do you think they could…
  • Hi there, I need some advice please. I have almost all the classic symptoms, hot flushes, cant sleep, anxiety, irritated all the time and now I started to have absolutely no interest in sex whatsoever. Is this normal? Would HRT help? Is there anything natural I can take that will help? I'm on antidepressants and I feel…
  • Hello Danine, it's lovely to have you on board. Thank you so much for being here. I was hoping to ask your advice on activities - my mother was recently diagnosed with dementia and I'm looking for something simple but fun, something we can do together to keep her engaged. She loves all arts & crafts.
  • Yes and I LOVE it! I'm not going to lie, it was a little hard to get used to it first as I don't like the idea of "having to do" stuff if that makes sense and I'm also very forgetful. I think guided journals are super helpful for beginners as it can be difficult to know what to write etc on your own. Highly recommend it…
  • I found having a designated space to work really helps. I created a little office corner for myself with a desk, a comfy chair, a plant and some candles. Previously I was trying to work in the bedroom, the kitchen, from the sofa etc and it just didn't work, I didn't have the mental space if that makes sense. Also I make…
  • @KatherineKilloran I looked into simple exercises this weekend and found some good ones on Youtube, we haven't tried them yet but we liked these a lot:
  • Thank you so much for you support it means a lot to us now. I will try and look for the articles thank you
  • Hi @cosie, thank you for your suggestions. Can I please ask how did you go about finding a support group? I think this would be a brilliant idea for my mum. She's just received her diagnosis (early onset dementia). I've been reading a lot online but finding all the information quite overwhelming. Not sure where to start.…
  • Hello everyone, I'm new here. My mother (62) got diagnosed with early onset dementia last month. I'm grateful to have found this site. I'm just looking to connect with others who are going through the same. Any advice is hugely appreciated as we're still in the beginning of this journey and not really sure what to expect.…