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  • Great news @MonicaM - long may it last! 🤞🏿
  • I'm sorry to hear that. When your mind is racing, maybe try writing down in a notebook what's going on as it may help you get it out of your head. After you've got it out then sitting and doing intentional breathing to open and relax your belly and muscles for 10 mins can then help to slow down the thoughts and allow you…
  • Oh @MonicaM that's really tough. I know you might not feel like you have time but if you can spare 5-10 mins to sit and listen to a mindfulness session to reset it can really help. Not getting back to sleep at all from 3 will definitely make you feel wiped out. What are you trying to do at the moment to get back to sleep…
  • Hi @MontgomeryC, sorry to hear about your continuing insomnia.There's a lot of information on the forum for ideas of how to help you with your sleeping patterns and also little things you can do to try and help you sleep if you wake. I created the sleep pack on Clarity to help you wind down or go back to sleep if you wake…
  • Hi @Jane495 Sorry to hear that you've not been doing so well lately. I wanted to add a bit to what @Blanka_C said (thank you for your shoutout about Clarity.app! 😍) I just wanted to check that you're coming off your antidepressants slowly and with your doctors guidance? Coming off them can change how you're freeling (like…
  • Hi @Nickib65 thanks for your note and welcome! 😁Insomnia is a killer - I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with this. Unfortunately there's no quick fixes to this but given what your doctor has said then it's important to start the journey to turn your sleep around. The standard advice (which I'm assuming you know…
  • Hi @Bess, I've just seen your post - @Kaz may have not seen it as it wasn't tagged so I will pop her in here so she can respond. I'm delighted to hear that you are feeling better. Becks
  • Hi @Debbie57, the hot flushes sound full on for you! I'm sorry to hear that. The lovely @Kaz has covered a lot of what I would say - I would only add that if you can't take any vitamins or HRT then you need to look to food as medicine and also your exercise regime. You may need to talk to a nutritional therapist (@Kaz do…
  • Hi @Ellisc299, I'm sorry to hear about your cancer diagnosis, I hope you're getting the help you need. Having read the lovely @Kaz's reply I would agree with what she has said. Making sure you have open communication with your husband is important. We do have a libido on https://clarity.app that I would encourage you to…
  • Hi ladies, I'm just popping up to just give you a big virtual hug of support @dimpie66. The incredible @Kaz seems to have covered all the bases for starting you on your track with getting proper help and support. I would just also add just make sure you do take a breathe and be a little kind to yourself. This stuff is…
  • Hi @HummingB1rd, the wonderful ladies seem to have covered most things I would say. I would only add if getting off to sleep is the issue you could try journaling perhaps. Writing down all your thoughts can be both cathartic and help them out of your head to help you get off to sleep. I would put a proviso in there that…
  • @Hardingetta I'm pleased to hear that. I completely see why you think it will help, just switch it out every once in a while for one of the other things and see how you go. Yes bone density is a big one. Have a chat to your doctor about that specifically as you may need to get a bone density check. Don't worry, you're not…
  • Hi @Hardingetta this stuff is really hard, isn't it? It can really knock you around, and sadly many of the coping mechanisms we have can at times hurt not help you. Alcohol sadly will be triggering your hot sweats and night flushes and actually doesn't help you have a deep and restful sleep (though it can help you get off…
  • @Kazza123 I don't blame you at all, it is really frustrating to say the very least. I would start gently with something like magnesium citrate https://menopause.livebetterwith.com/products/magasorb-60-tablets but do look at your diet to see if there is anything that may be causing inflammation as it really can literally be…
  • @LanieTM it does sound like you're doing all the right things, so I can see why you would be stumped. Green discharge would normally be related to an infection so having a smell would generally be normal alongside - so I'm not sure why you would be getting a green discharge with no smell. In honesty I would probably need…
  • @Kazza123 - it might be worth having a check to see if any of your foods are triggering it - if you have a big weekend of wheat for instance you may have a couple of days of pain after. In the mean time just make sure that you up your fibre, if you're not taking a probiotic then maybe look to add that to your diet and look…
  • @LanieTM I'm just catching up with what's going on for you as well. Green is definitely not a normal discharge and would indicate some kind of infection - the GP is right it would be standard for you and your husband to get an STI check. This shouldn't indicate either of you having cheated, it is just to rule out if you…
  • Hi @Kazza123, I'm just catching up on this - I'm really sorry to hear that you have been having this feeling, it sounds really painful. It's great to hear that you've gone to your doctor and there's no blood, it's the right first step. I would take it back to basics to try and figure out what is going on. The gut changes…
  • Hi @Florentena, I'm really sorry to hear about the heart palpitations - they can really be unnerving (especially when they happen at night). Once you have ruled out anything potentially worrying with your doctor then your next step should be to monitor when and where it's happening by tracking in a diary or calendar. You…
  • Hi @LizzyB, that sounds tough. The lovely @Kaz is right with trying to use some mindfulness - either a voice or a sound that might be able to help you go back to sleep. You could try doing a few long slow breaths in and out your nose, focus on your breathing and where the breath moves your body. If you're finding that's…
  • Hi @Max I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling dark. As your body starts to make the hormonal changes to get ready and go through menopause it's common to have changes in your mood. There are a number of things that can help to start to feel a little better - doing some exercise, making sure you prioritise your sleep…
  • @SHE55, I'm so very sorry to hear that there's nothing pharmaceutical that can be done for you. I do hope you have a trained talk therapist (like a Psychologist or Psychotherapist or someone trained in CBT). Do look into the mediation aspect - it's by no means a quick fix but it really can help. Don't forget to reach out…
  • Hi @SHE55, I'm really sorry to hear how you've struggled. It sounds like you have a lot of things really impacting you at the moment. I hope you have a good support structure around you - do you have a cbt therapist or psychologist that you are seeing on a regular basis? Depression is something that needs to have ongoing…
  • Hi @Bertie24 I just wanted to check and see how you got on with your ECG fitness test - was it able to explain the flutters? There are a few reasons why you might be coming up with these palpitations so it's good to get them checked out with your doctor to make sure that you don't miss something. Your body will be changing…
  • Hi @Green15, Sorry to hear you're not getting enough sleep, you said that you've everything suggested to you, can you tell us a little more about what you've tried and how long you've tried it for? All of @Kaz's suggestions are good ones (either by themselves or as a combination) have you given all of these things a try?…
  • Hi fosterde01, I'm sorry to hear about your symptoms -- these issues can really pack a punch at times, it would be so helpful if it was just one at a time, wouldn't it? I would agree with what @Kaz and @Julie20 have said. I can't comment on the natural remedies but I just wanted to see if I could help you a little with the…
  • Oh @Kaz what a lovely testimonial - I’m so delighted that you have enjoyed using Clarity and you’ve managed to sleep so well. The quirky windscreen wipers is my personal favourite to get back to sleep if I wake up, you wouldn’t think it would work but I find it so relaxing! I'm pleased we have the same sense of humour 😁…
  • Hi TraciA, I'm really sorry to hear both about your shingles and also your dreadful anxiety. I know that it can be tough when you're in a management position, so let's see if we can't help you take a couple of steps towards getting some control back and lowering your anxiety a little. As @Kaz has mentioned it is a very…
  • Hi JuJu, I have quite a few tips for getting back to sleep in the night. For straight breathing technique you can try counting each breath to 21 - trying to make your out breath slower than your in breath. Each time your mind wanders to something, just acknowledge it and bring your mind back to your breath and the last…