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Croakey66Croakey66 Posts: 1
Hi everyone. I'm new here and I guess I'm looking for people who understand what I'm going through and for reassurance that I'm not losing my mind! 
I'm 53, worsening hot flushes since the age of 42, periods stopped 3 years ago. Hot flushes, anxiety and low mood all seem to be getting worse and I'm hoping this is "normal". I've tried two lots of HRT pills which gave me bad headaches and two sorts of HRT patches which wouldn't stay stuck on - back to the GP this week to see what else I can try. Also having massage for high anxiety which is causing tension in my neck and jaw - I feel like I'm falling apart! 


  • KazKaz Posts: 475 mod
    Hello @Croakey66 ,

    Welcome to the forum! And please rest assured - you are not losing your mind. I often used to feel exactly like this. A lot of women will understand what you're saying, and will be experiencing similar.
    There are things you can try - my first lot of patches wouldn't stick at all. The second lot were great. I guess there are different glues with each brand. You could simply ask to try another brand of the patch.
    You could also ask to try a gel instead. If you still have your womb, then you'd have to get a progesterone element either in tablet form or via something like the mirena coil, but there are still definitely options for you.
    I used to suffer with awful anxiety and low mood too. Both have eased off with the HRT patches I've been using for the last 8 months or so, but I also use a mindfulness app to help with these symptoms too. I use the Clarity app - by one of our experts, but there are lots of others you could try too. I find that this one fits my symptoms well. It helps me sleep, calms my anxious mind, helps with flushes - and I love that it's been designed with women in mind. Since it's drug free, there's certainly no harm in trying something like this. 

    Have a look at the attached symptoms checker - you might be surprised to see how many symptoms you have without realising it, and if you fill it in and take it to your GP with you, it should help the conversation along.


    Please be reassured that you're definitely not losing your mind!

    Hope this helps a bit! :)
  • lucycaldwelllucycaldwell Posts: 3

    hi ladies, just joined today 47 years young last period 2 1/2 years ago hot flushes getting worse but what concerns me most is joint pain wrists and elbows and forearms ankles knees and shins used to be very active but struggling to walk never mind run or ride the bike was wondering what to take for it. any help would be wonderful

  • Julie20Julie20 Posts: 345 mod

    Hi @lucycaldwell welcome , I also suffer with very painful joints and take magnesium every day. It does help. Do you have osteoarthritis? X

  • lucycaldwelllucycaldwell Posts: 3

    hi Julie 20 not that I'm aware off truth be told I haven't been to see a doctor about the menopause and associated ailments but funnily was discussing this with a colleague at work and thinking maybe it's time I did I take natural remedies for the other symptoms 😄😄

  • Julie20Julie20 Posts: 345 mod

    Hi @lucycaldwell unfortunately osteoarthritis us very common when menopausal. I really struggle with it but apart from supplements there isn't that much that can be done to ease the pain. I've tried the steroid injections but that's just a short term thing. It will be worth seeing your GP just to rule out anything else though x

  • lucycaldwelllucycaldwell Posts: 3

    well decided today that enough was enough and made appointment to go see doc night sweats and weight gain finally wore me down. I have a wardrobe range of size 12 to size 18 I'm 5'2 and have always been 12 to 14 so fingers crossed but appointment not till 3rd april 🤞🤞🤞🤞

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