I'm 45 years old live in Maryland (United States) and have been treated for anxiety/depression for about 20 years now. I had a hysterectomy in my early to mid 30s due to fibroids heavy bleeding etc. I was in a very abusive marriage found a wonderful new husband and have been married almost 6 years. Early in 2019 I started having severe night sweats couldn't focus etc. Anyway I went to my primary care doctor and told him what I had been experiencing. One blood test later and yup "Menopause". My mother had a terrible time with it and never went on hormone therapy. She passed away in 2012 from cervical cancer. Anyway my dr put me on HRT and that helps for the most part. But I still could not focus. Went back and he put me on adderall extended release. This helps tremendously. I must also mention that I deal with chronic pain from back surgery. My biggest issue is the lack of bladder control. I am recovering from the flu and coughing of course and peed myself quite a bit even with poise urinary pads on. I am absolutely humiliated even if my husband understands and is compassionate. Does anyone else have this issue? How do you handle it?