Low libido 😒🙄

Bit of an embarrassing one to talk about sometimes, but it's actually a really important issue so here goes...
Has anyone noticed a drop in how much you're interested in sex?
What have you tried to feel more 'in the mood'? Has it affected your relationship with your partner? 

Comments

  • MilaMila Posts: 9
    @SweatyBetty Don’t be embarrassed. We are all going through the same :( and here for you 
    yes it’s miserable :(
  • NicNic Posts: 3
    My husband not interested in sex, so he says.  So I've kinda given up now.  Don't feel attractive when sweating every half hour anyway 
  • DizziLadyDizziLady Posts: 7
    Husband is chronically ill so no sex here! I miss the rush and feeling like a woman! Menopause has stolen my lasts shred of femininity!
  • NicNic Posts: 3
    I Agree dizzy lady.  It's the rush of being wanted.  Is menopause an acceptable excuse for an affair? 🤔🤔
  • TootifulYouTootifulYou Posts: 1
    Yes I feel the same the menopause has stolen the last bit of me, my partner says he understands but I don't feel he does. I've gone from having a very high sex drive to nothing, it's really frustrating and upsetting. I've tried some supplement's and hrt but nothing has changed. 
  • DizziLadyDizziLady Posts: 7
    Not sure I could cope with all the complications of an affair!!! Nor all the leg shaving and breathing tummy in! 
  • NicNic Posts: 3
    Dizzilady that has made me proper chuckle  =) =) =)
  • KazKenn24KazKenn24 Posts: 31
    Bit of an embarrassing one to talk about sometimes, but it's actually a really important issue so here goes...
    Has anyone noticed a drop in how much you're interested in sex?
    What have you tried to feel more 'in the mood'? Has it affected your relationship with your partner? 
    I'm struggling with this one. My husband works away for three months at a time, and he's only  back for a couple of weeks. I guess I feel I should be more attentive when he's home. I don't even think of that side of things when he's away, and as much as I miss him, when he's there next to me, all I can think about is escaping to the living room and the sofa, because the heat coming from him  in the bed suffocates me! It's really hard to be sexy when you feel as if you're about to spontaneously combust. I'm lucky that it isn't affecting our relationship too much. He does get a bit ticked off when I disappear in the middle of the night - I think he wants to be cuddled up because we don't get to see each other as much as we want. But I just can't stand the heat! And I really, REALLY hope it passes soon.... but it's already been 15 years since my hysterectomy, and no signs of it fading away yet!
  • I am not experiencing low libido yet, actually right now I am in hyper drive but I don't have a partner and haven't for over 5 years. I miss it enormously but mostly kissing, feeling the weight of my significant other on top of me. So I turn the best next thing, my vibrator. I know, not the same but not into casual sex anymore, did that in my 30's between marriages. I wouldn't mind having a fling if I found someone I liked, felt even a very tiny connection but nothing so far. Joined a dating website for fun and so many of the "men" there are fake profiles run by scammers etc, so boring......I do data base research, I am quite good at it. So the most fun I had in the dating website was chatting with some of these men, spotting the fake profiles/scammers and reporting them to the webmaster haha.
    Wonder if my libido will drop, wonder if I will feel like you ladies do, I am 55 years old, thought something like that would have happened to me already. Being alone and in hyper-libido drive when you don't have a significant other, when one feels too old to be in the dating scene, when I wonder how much a new man in my life will be bothered by my overweight, my stretch marks, my CPAP machine, my skin tags, my darkened skin under my breasts......feeling so so so unattractive. So, there it is and here we are, I'd say we'll make it :)  
  • Carol_MayCarol_May Posts: 1
    My libido disappeared completely + sex became very painful, even with lube. During this time, my now ex husband descended into alcoholism and finally left..... However, meeting a new man meant my libido came back with a vengeance!! Lol! Took me completely by surprise to be honest! Now I feel sexier than ever, even though everything is saggy!!! So, ladies, don't give up!! I would also recommend having an open and honest conversation with your partners about how you are feeling... and that it's because of your menopause symptoms, not because you don't love him anymore. And remember, you will come out the other side eventually!  
  • KazKaz Posts: 36 mod
    Carol_May said:
    My libido disappeared completely + sex became very painful, even with lube. During this time, my now ex husband descended into alcoholism and finally left..... However, meeting a new man meant my libido came back with a vengeance!! Lol! Took me completely by surprise to be honest! Now I feel sexier than ever, even though everything is saggy!!! So, ladies, don't give up!! I would also recommend having an open and honest conversation with your partners about how you are feeling... and that it's because of your menopause symptoms, not because you don't love him anymore. And remember, you will come out the other side eventually!  
    Brilliant advice @Carol_May! Hope for everyone! X
  • JuJu23JuJu23 Posts: 11
    Lourdes you are certainly beautiful just as you are ...
    body image insecurity most definitely affects all my girlfriends in one way or another - we laugh about it and console each other when miserable ...
    You are most definitely lovable and gorgeous to somebody who might feel just as worried about there “imperfections” as you do ...
    ladies, without all the detail,  I thought no one would ever accept my “imperfection” until I met my husband last year and realised there are good people who love and cherish you no matter what - don’t give up ...
    p.s for a bit of something lovely and to maybe help arouse the senses! ...try Swoon Massage in a Bottle - from Boots - smells divine and ok on intimate areas! 
Sign In or Register to comment.