I started menopause symptoms about 18 months ago. When I was 44 (I'm now 46) HRT tablets didn't work other than making me gain a lot of weight in a very short period. HRT Patches were awful and made me suicidal with mood swings. I am reluctant to go back onto HRT as all my aunts and my mother have had either breast cancer or ovarian cancer. I've had a lot of gynecological issues myself so I am reluctant to have a coil fitted. I take herbal stuff to try and regulate things but I feel like I am slowly disappearing down a black hole. I have no libido which is frustrating not only for my partner but me also. I am either red mist angry or crying and normally for no reason what so ever. I am constantly exhausted and in pain but my GP just keeps saying to take HRT as this is all related. I exercise 4 times a week, doing running and aerobic classes, don't drink, don't smoke and have a fairly healthy diet. Does anyone else have any suggestions?