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Mirena coil & menopause

BessBess Posts: 9

Hi This is my first time to do something like this, so bare with me while I ramble a bit.

I have ny 3rd mirena coil in, in year 3 of 5. Not sure what to take to help relieve the run of symptoms associated with the menopause. Also my sister died of breast cancer Jan 2018, going to counselling at the moment, which started as marriage guidance for the first visit (32years married) last 2 sessions have just been me, I am a bit of a mess which I would like to get a hold on. Libido is big issue for my husband, also I am not the woman he married, I was always easy going, now the rage has taken over like what other women have written about, also spent since the end of Feb getting treated for flexor muscle not working and now trying to undo nerve damage in femoral & sciatic nerves. Stopped taking anti-inflammatory and painkillers last week, constipated from them. Just want to run away from it all. My gp wants to get muscle and nerve damage sorted first and dies not recommend hrt because of my sister.

Any suggestions


  • KazKaz Posts: 475 mod

    Hello @Bess

    Welcome to the forum - I'm so glad you've joined us.

    I love a good ramble - it helps me put things straight in my head and I appreciate how brave it is to share some of this personal stuff.

    What a lot you've been coping with! I'm so sorry to read about your sister - that's a really difficult thing to be dealing with. Grief is a very individual process. I'm happy to see that you've been having counselling - although that can be exhausting too! Being in physical pain too with your flexor muscle issue, and feeling unsupported at home - it's no wonder you're feeling so overwhelmed.

    Isn't it awful how much we change whilst we're in this menopause phase? I found that I seemed to become some horrible, cartoon version of myself. It was as if I was having an out of body experience - watching myself behave in certain ways, but unable to stop it. I'm sure my husband and teenage boys must have thought I was losing my marbles more than once! I worried that I was displaying signs of early dementia at one point! As you describe - a real mess. I hope, as you read some of the discussions we've had on the forum, you'll discover that there are lots of us feeling very similar to you.

    So - your GP doesn't recommend HRT because of the breast cancer history with your sister. That's understandable. There are things that you can do to help manage your symptoms though - and I wonder if you knew there are such places as Menopause Clinics? A menopause clinic specialises in all things Menopause and HRT related. You need to be referred by your GP (fingers crossed that there is a clinic in your area) but you will probably have to ask for that referral! And you shouldn't be afraid to ask! You deserve to be able to access the help you need. I'll pop a link at the bottom of this reply for you to search for one in your area. There are NHS ones, but there are also private clinics if the budget stretches that far. I would try searching just for NHS first. I certainly didn't have the budget for private! If there is one and travel/distance is an issue - you can ask about a phone or "attend anywhere" consultation which is a bit like a skype call!

    I've also attached a list of alternatives you could try to help with your symptoms. I spent a long time using all sorts of supplements and gadgets and gizmos. I tried a LOT - and some worked, some not so much. The thing is though, that there is hope! My best tip would be the mindfulness app I use. I used to think it was all mumbo jumbo - but I was at the end of my tether and I thought I'd give it a go. I love it! Really! It helps me sleep, it calms me down, and I've even had relief from hot flushes! Who knew that could work? It's also drug free! It might be just the thing you're looking for to help cope with everything - there's also a libido section if you think you want to try that. It's the Clarity app by one of our lovely experts @Becks_Armstrong on the forum. Definitely worth a wee look!

    I hope I haven't overwhelmed you with options! Please keep talking to us - that's probably the most important tip of all!😊

  • BessBess Posts: 9

    Thanks Kaz

    Just writing on this forum has helped, we really need to vent. I have downloaded the headspace app going to try that tonigh. I live in Ireland so no NHS for me Im afraid. But there are 3 well woman clinics in Dublin which have a menopausal section so will keep them in mind.

    Once again many thanks, clicked on the link and might give the Chinese massage/acupuncture a go, picked up a leaflet few weeks back and seen they cover menopause.


  • KazKaz Posts: 475 mod


    Keep in touch and let us know how you get on 😊

  • BessBess Posts: 9

    Hi Kaz

    Thus is just for an update. I went to my gp today, she is ordering bloods to be done and I have the appointment for next week and then the following week I will be back to her for results, she us checking the fsh, thyroid and the B's. She told me that more than likely I am menopausal and she will start me on oestrogen hrt as I have the mirena coil in.

    Im happy enough with what plan she has and felt she had time for me which is very important.

    Feeling better about life, talking to my husband more about the symptoms associated with the menopause. Also downloaded the headspace app to help me with meditation and bought my first box of chamomile tea bags for my warm drink before bed.

    Many thanks for spending time answering all the ladies queries around being menopausal, such a big help

    Hope other ladies get the help they need

  • KazKaz Posts: 475 mod

    This is brilliant news @Bess .

    It's lovely to hear you sounding so positive. It really helps you to feel more in control when you have a plan doesn't it?

    Keep talking to your husband, and us if it helps! You're on your way to feeling better ♥️

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