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I feel like I'm losing my mind

Hi everyone

I'm new to the forum, having stumbled across the site whilst looking online for guidance regarding the menopause.

I'm 48 and have been peri-menopausal/menopausal for around six years. I've had many of the usual symptoms. Initially, it was the hot flushes and night sweats that I found difficult to manage and, on a friend's recommendation, I invested in a magnet a couple of years ago which helped massively with these symptoms. Although I haven't been sleeping well for some time now, to be honest, I felt I was getting off lightly if this was all I had to contend with (along with 'minor' things like changing skin, hairs growing where I don't want them etc!)

However, in the last few months, I've been experiencing forgetfulness and a lack of logical thinking, and I just don't have the clarity of thought I used to. I regularly make silly mistakes on even the most simple things and, as well as being generally frustrating, it is having a negative impact on my work. I've got to the stage where I don't feel I can trust myself to do things, and I know my confidence is being affected.

I've also been feeling very low for some months now and am exhausted all the time. I just can't seem to shake it off and lack motivation to do anything.

I have talked openly to my husband about the impact the menopause is having on me. Whilst he's been wonderful and is doing his best to understand and support, I feel that things are changing between us. We don't enjoy the level of intimacy we have been used to (because of me) which I know he finds difficult. My libido is undoubtedly diminished and I generally feel less attractive although he assures me I am not to him.

I'm not sure what my options are but, at the moment, I feel like I'm losing my mind and know I need to do something. Any advice would be gratefully received.


  • MonicaMMonicaM Posts: 337 ✭✭✭


    Thank you for your questions and a very warm welcome to our forum, so glad you've found us.

    So sorry to hear you're going through this, it must be very frustrating. I'm not a healthcare professional myself, but however we have our lovely gynae Dr @Giada Frontino on board with us who I'm sure will be able to advise you further.

    I tagged her in this discussion so she'll be able to get back to you soon.

    I do understand how you feel about the forgetfulness and feeling like sometimes you are loosing it and can't remember things. I have gone through that before and it can be very frustrating and overwhelming because you don't feel like yourself. I have felt it most during the times at work. I don't know what has happened it is like I have shut down and my mind can't figure out what to do sometimes. When it happens to me I take a couple of deep breaths, I may go take a brief walk outside to get some air or sometimes I will step away from my desk for a little while and then come back and then I feel a little more energized and refreshed and I just try hard to think about what I need to do. I have post it notes all around my desk so I can try to stay on top of things and not forget.

    Sometimes just focusing or doing something else for a short period of time can help.

    Have you spoken to your GP about your symptoms with your lack of energy maybe they can run some tests to see if there is anything else going on other than menopause.

    In the meantime, feel free to have a look around / join in any of our existing discussions!

  • Giada FrontinoGiada Frontino Posts: 73 Consultant Gynaecologist

    Dear @MissyH ,

    Thank you for openly describing how you have been feeling, as this can help many women who are experiencing the same.

    I do recommend first of all having a full health checkup, especially of your blood pressure and discussing with your GP the symptoms you have been feeling and which are greatly impacting your quality of life and your relationship with your husband. There are certainly some investigations that can be carried out to understand better why you are feeling so and how to most effectively address this.

    Please do keep updating us on how everything goes.

    Kind regards,

    Giada Frontino

    GMC Full Specialist Registration # 7468911 

    Website: https://www.doctify.com/uk/specialist/dr_giada_frontino 

  • MenopauseorjustmeMenopauseorjustme Posts: 433 Menopause Nurse Practitioner


    Thank you for posting and describing how menopause is making you feel. The impact menopause has reaches far and wide, from our own self confidence, our ability to work and how it impacts upon all relationships.

    Have you talked about menopause with your GP? I would suggest this is the best place to start.

    There maybe other causes for your feelings/symptoms and Covid has impacted on our mental health too.

    But HRT can make a significant difference to your symptoms and improve your quality of life. I have consultations on women several times a day and they say word for word what you described.

    Do talk to your GP about menopause and ask about HRT too. I would ask to speak to someone who specialises in menopause.

    Please let us know how you get on.

    Best wishes

    Diane Porterfield Bourne.

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