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Is this the start of it?

KimjayKimjay Posts: 2

I am 52 years old and I’m experiencing joint pain, fatigue and getting emotional. I have had high anxiety all my life so that’s not really any different for me. I haven’t had any hot flashes during the day but I think I’ve had night sweats. But the big thing is, my periods are regular now for the first time in my life. So is this the start of the menopause? I can’t ask my mother because she had a hysterectomy at age 30. I don’t have any sisters so no one to ask about the symptoms. Can anyone advise please


  • MonicaMMonicaM Posts: 337 ✭✭✭


    Hi Kimjay,

    Thank you for sharing your experiences with us and here in this group, I hope that we can be of some assistance and support to you.

    I am going to tag our Nurse expert @DianePorterfield-Bourne and she can give you some additional advice on how to handle your symptoms.

    Maybe you can see on her posts some suggestions that she has for the symptoms that you are experiencing.

    Here are some articles that maybe helpful for you

    What should I do to manage joint pain?

    Joint pain is common during the menopause but it can leave you feeling frustrated and sore - even after a “simple” activity like carrying the groceries in from the car, or trying to work in the garden.

    • Try a soothing bath: A soothing bath is a perfect way to relax the joints and muscles all over your body. Heat can increase circulation near sore and aching joints, bringing in new oxygen-rich blood and nutrients to reduce pain and inflammation. Try adding a soothing oil to the bath for extra relief.
    • Use cooling relief: Sometimes, a cooling gel or compress is all that’s needed to soothe aching muscles and joints. Try using the GelO pillow mat for convenient and flexible relief. You can also use cooling gels or homemade ice packs to relieve tension and strain.
    • Try hemp body oil: Hemp cannabinoid is known to have analgesic and anti-inflammatory properties. This means that in addition to reducing the strain around your joints and muscles, it will also help to relieve your pain. Rub a little hemp oil into your skin for quick relief.
    • Comfort products: Extra cushions and supports can help to take the strain off specific parts of your body as you manage aches and pains during the menopause. We love the iBeani cushion for this exact purpose. Instead of having to hold your iPad or tablet at a funny angle, the iBeani allows you to position it wherever is most comfortable. 
    • Warm massage: An at-home massage is a comfortable way to gently soothe your body. Massagers for your neck, shoulders and feet are easy to use, and some can be repurposed to be used on your lower back. Your tension will melt away!


  • MonicaMMonicaM Posts: 337 ✭✭✭


    I am not a doctor but hopefully some of the articles that I have posted will help you through some of these common symptoms of perimenopause or menopause. Have you spoken to your doctor about how you fel and your discomfort?

  • KimjayKimjay Posts: 2

    Thank you Monica. Nice to hear from you. I hadn’t thought of those idea, they are very helpful

  • MenopauseorjustmeMenopauseorjustme Posts: 431 Menopause Nurse Practitioner


    Good afternoon and thank you @MonicaM

    Some interesting articles and ideas, knowledge is power after all!

    Thank you for detailing your symptoms. They certainly sound like classic menopausal symptoms. Have you discussed how you are feeling with your GP? This is always the place to start. Having periods is not a big factor in menopause management. It is important to know how regular you are and if you have noticed any changes to your flow and duration of menstruation. Your age and your symptoms help decide your care.

    Fatigue, joint pains and night sweats are very common symptoms.

    GP's are open, do talk to your GP and get their advice. For the majority of women HRT is the best treatment for menopause but you can discuss this with them. It's about making joint decisions to improve your symptoms and long term health.

    Good luck and do keep us posted.

    Best wishes

    Diane Porterfield.

  • Blanka_CBlanka_C Posts: 406 Community Admin

    Hi @Kimjay,

    Sounds like you're going through quite a lot. I can see you already received some really good advice above! I just wanted to let you know that this Friday we have a live menopause Q&A that you might find useful.

    @DianePorterfield-Bourne is a highly experienced menopause nurse and HRT specialist - she'll be answering questions like yours about the menopause. It's free of course.

    Here's a little more info in case this is of any interest!

    Hope to see you there. :)


    Blanka x

    Topics include:

     ✅ The stages and common symptoms of the menopause

     ✅ Anxiety, mood changes and feeling stressed

     ✅ HRT - facts, risks and benefits

     ✅ Lifestyle choices to live better with the menopause

    You will have the opportunity to listen in and ask questions live, using the chat function - don’t worry, you won’t need to use your camera or mic. 😏

    Date and time: 6pm - 6.30pm BST, Friday 26th June

    Where: Zoom

    How to join: Simply click on the following link at 6pm on the day: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/84236189200

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