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Is it the menopause or is it depression?

Kate1968Kate1968 Posts: 1

Here’s a question I am struggling to answer. Am I depressed or are these feelings another symptom of the menopause?

I have been going through the menopause for about 3 years now. I have tried HRT but didn’t get on with it. It made me very angry and aggressive so I decided to see if I could struggle through without medication. I am getting used to the night sweats and lack of sleep but just recently I have realised that I’m not happy and can’t find joy in anything that I used to love doing. I struggle through work and have no motivation to socialise. I feel like crying at the most inconvenient times and I simply don’t laugh any more.

I need to find a solution but I’m scared to go to the doctors as I feel to exhausted to start the process of working out what medication will work for me. Does anybody have any suggestions?


  • Blanka_CBlanka_C Posts: 320 Community Admin

    Hi @Kate1968,

    Welcome to the Community! ❤️ It's a very supportive group with the loveliest ladies.

    I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling like this. It must be overwhelming.

    It's true that one of the most common symptoms of the menopause are having mood swings, feeling more emotional or even anxious. This is because of hormone level changes.

    I appreciate what you're saying with the process of working out a new medication, but a visit to the doctor is definitely a good idea. A lot of the ladies here are on anti-depressants, including me (although in my case, it's not menopause-related). I take 10mp Citalopram, the lowest dose. For me personally it's helping, I used to have anxiety and panic attacks almost every day. I felt 'empty' if that make sense. And yes, the process of working out what is right for you, is not easy - I tried St John's Wort before for example, which didn't help me. But my GP was really understanding and guided me through the whole process.

    One thing is for 100% sure - you are not alone. There's always a pair of ears here to listen. In fact, @Julie20, @MonicaM, @Jane20 might have a couple of tips / experiences to share.

    In the meantime, I've found the following articles that you might find useful to have a look through:

    This discussion is quite similar as well, feel free to join in:

    Keep me posted on how you're getting on. Speak soon.

    Blanka x

  • MonicaMMonicaM Posts: 150 mod

    @Kate1968 Hi Kate, I am sorry that you are experiencing the symptoms. I have not personally experienced all of those symptoms but some of them not wanting to be around people sometimes and wanting to be myself. Not able to have a good night sleep because of the night sweats and waking up exhausted. Although my experiences or symptoms are not all the same as yours but please remember what @Blanka_C said we are always here if you need us to listen.

  • EllesmereportEllesmereport Posts: 1

    Hi Kate it’s a very difficult time and a real struggle to get through some of the symptoms. You are not on your own we are all dealing with these issues. Try some B12 vitamins they give you energy I swear by them. Menopause is like a roller coaster and most of the time we all want to get off. It does get better it just takes time. Try and talk to s doctor they can help.

  • MonicaMMonicaM Posts: 150 mod

    @Ellesmereport thank you for that suggestion that you gave I may try B12 vitamins as a matter of fact I probably should get a multivitamin to give me the nutrients that I am not getting from food.

  • Blanka_CBlanka_C Posts: 320 Community Admin

    Hi @Kate1968, how are you? Did you manage to talk to your doctor? I hope you're feeling a little better now x

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