Intimacy in my relationship
I have struggled since I had a full hysterectomy at the age of 40 with intimacy with my husband. At first neither of us realised that vaginal dryness can be a side effect of the menopause. As time went on this became a real problem for us with my husband feeling pushed away and me feeling that I couldn't cuddle him or just have a cwtch as he then thought that I was signalling that it was alright to have sexual intercourse which was so painful and even led to bleeding. We were almost at the point where he was considering moving out. Then I did some reading about the menopause and talked to him about what I was finding out and we tried many things to make intimacy pleasurable as it had been before menopause. Sadly, we did not find anything which really helped. We did however, learn to talk about these issues with each other and we have both agreed that although we no longer have sexual intercourse we have lovely cuddles and cwtches which satisfies both of us, as we have both grieved for the loss of this togetherness. We are now 12 years into and coming out the other side of menopause and if anything our love for each other has got stronger than ever.