It's really hard for men and I do think that a lot of us forgot that they don't understand what we are going through because all the symptoms are internal. If we had a broken bone they could see that and sympathise but on the outside we look normal. Men are very simple creatures lol. X
Oh I love that, I’ve never grown anything other than strawberries 🍓 only a few but they were nice, but looking at those herbs it’s something I’ll think about. Oh I’ve got mint in my garden I took a cutting from my mums garden years ago and each year it comes through thicker, and I actually use it.
thanks Monica 🙏
Hi Ladies, thought I'd remind you of this given it's Valentine's - I personally LOVE words of encouragement like this, always make me feel better. Have a fab weekend x
I'm sorry to hear that. When your mind is racing, maybe try writing down in a notebook what's going on as it may help you get it out of your head. After you've got it out then sitting and doing intentional breathing to open and relax your belly and muscles for 10 mins can then help to slow down the thoughts and allow you to get a little more grounded. Doing work can ramp up the busy-ness so just be careful of getting your mind to work too much when you should be trying to sleep. It sounds like you're doing your best though so be kind to yourself and try again tonight.
Sometimes I read one or two books at a time. The books that I am currently reading are The Couple Next Door by Shari Lapena. I haven't gotten to far in the book yet it is ok so far. I am reading it for another book club that I am in. Hopefully it will get better.
I try to also read business related books to help me with business. I am in and out reading Business Boutique by Christy Wright. So far it seems to have some good information but I just haven't really had time to really get into it yet.
I am sort of all over the place when it comes to books.
What types of books do you like to read?
I absolutely identify with everything in your message.
The food, the extreme tiredness, the steroids, motor skills, neuropathy in fingers toes, which I still have from the heavy metals in the chemo Oxialiplatin, the many night time visits to A&E and the long wait for a bed and 3 days in hospitsl till the antibiotics kicked in. I filled out a daily log of Blood pressure, temperature, what tasted like what on each day. This was great later on because when my taste buds were shot away I could think o well thats going to happen for the next 5 or 6 days! Then I found only hot crisps which I never would eat or chilli or curry was palatable. My chemo had a predictable pattern each day of each week. I wouldn’t have realised this unless I kept it noted. It is lovely now to read it to see how far I have come in a year. I even wrote fears and things I couldn’t tell anyone in it. When I see it now I think o my you were feeling sorry for yourself. It is so useful tho and I do recommend it as your family and friends are also scared and you must try not to frighten them, although it is always good to keep talking. I even decided to write in there how I want my funeral to go so there is no misunderstanding with my lovely children and wonderful husband. (Stepchildren and Stepdad)
Sounds morbid but I needed to put it down so I could stop thinking about it in the early hours. One good thing since I had my treatment I feel I know, what and who is important in my life and I am very lucky.
If anyone reading this is just starting your journey with cancer my experience is that it does get better and there are good times to be had despite it.
One day at a time. I remember saying to Lou I’m doing this and going to do that and she was so encouraging but I know now she was also saying take it easy! 😂
We can do this.
I hope it all goes well for you and enjoy your weekend.
Oh @MonicaM that's really tough. I know you might not feel like you have time but if you can spare 5-10 mins to sit and listen to a mindfulness session to reset it can really help. Not getting back to sleep at all from 3 will definitely make you feel wiped out. What are you trying to do at the moment to get back to sleep that's not working? Maybe there's something we can find to try to help you that you've not tried before.
Hi @MontgomeryC, sorry to hear about your continuing insomnia.There's a lot of information on the forum for ideas of how to help you with your sleeping patterns and also little things you can do to try and help you sleep if you wake. I created the sleep pack on Clarity to help you wind down or go back to sleep if you wake up so do check it out. I would be happy to have a chat with you about what's going on for you specifically if you need.
I wish you the very best of luck with your sleep!
Sorry to hear you have sleep problems. Just wanted to share a couple of useful resources that you might find helpful! Here's to good articles to read:
I also wonder if mindfulness might be something to try out? This article includes 3 exercises that might help you sleep better.
We also have the lovely @Becks_Armstrong on our Forum - she's an Expert in Mindfulness & Sleep, plus the Founder of Clarity, a mindfulness, relaxation and sleep app designed specifically for women. You can talk to her here, if you'd like:
Keep me posted on how you're getting on. x
thank you, yes I too have great support from my husband daughter (26) and my lovely mum. Last year my daughter and I had 2 holidays to Spain which we were going to do again this year but at the moment I don’t want to book anything!
hormones have a lot to answer to.