Hello on this lovely bank holiday afternoon.
I hope everyone is doing as OK as can be expected in these difficult times. We have all had to face some extremely challenging weeks and life has changed quite dramatically for most people. Living so closely together with our families, no times to escape, money worries and relationships more strained is bad enough but throw menopause into it too......
The time leading up to the first day of your last period is called the peri menopausal stage. This can last for many years. This is when symptoms of reducing and fluctuating Oestrogen really become problematic. Increased anxiety in trying to do every day tasks, confidence being affected; unable to deal with situations or face people as you use to.... or 1 minute you feel so angry with everyone the next you want to sit in a room and cry?. Does this sound familiar?
From my experience it's very common indeed and has a huge impact upon you and your family.
So what to do about it? Well the first thing is acknowledging something isn't quite right and talking to people you can trust; family, friends or your GP. It's about having someone to listen to you, not really giving you lots of advice but listening. So many women feel very isolated during the menopause, you feel the old you slipping away and yet have no idea what is happening. Many ladies say " Where have I gone?"
Once someone has listened to you often we feel better but we owe it to ourselves and those closet to us to then find out what's going on. Are we stressed about a particular situation? lots of things and that you just feel low and can't put your finger on to why?
Remember menopause affects every single women, no women can escape it. We all experience feelings and symptoms in a slightly different way. So finding out how menopause can make you feel is very important. Live Better With Menopause let's women come together, share thoughts, feelings, worries in a safe environment because we have all been there.
If you feel lower than normal, please do not let this control you, get support and seek help. Talk to friends of similar age, find out about work placed policies, does your work offer any menopause support, if not this could be something HR could look into. Talking to your GP, as HRT helps so many women all over the world and talking therapies certainly help. Plus walking in the sunshine, gardening, being mindful and not being too hard on yourself ALL help.
So ladies have a lovely Bank Holiday Monday and if you have any issues relating to Menopause please write into me or any of the Menopause advisors at Live Better With Menopause.
Diane Porterfield Bourne.
Sorry in advance. Just felt like a bit of a moan. Why don't Oncologists, Doctors etc ever mention the long lasting after effects of chemotherapy? I am still having big problems with my legs and feet (Peripheral Neuropathy) and my final cycle finished last October. I have read in a couple of blogs that these problems can last for 2 or 3 years, so it's not like it's just a little thing. I am one of these people that want to know EVERYTHING, but getting information out of some of the medical profession is like pulling teeth. Having said that, the staff at Addenbrookes, Cambridge are second to none and have looked after me very well.
There we are. Hot flush over. Maybe time for a glass of Malbec.
Just wanted to check in to see how you all are doing. Life without cancer at the moment is hard, let alone life with it.
Please get in touch if you need a question answered or some signposting on specific information.
We are all here for you, anyone that needs some support or information at this difficult time. Might not have all the answers but will be happy to offer you what we know.
Sending best wishes to you all