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Mental health check in - how are you feeling today? Pick an emoji

Blanka_CBlanka_C Posts: 346 Community Admin
edited May 13 in Cancer Coffee Break

Good evening everyone,

Hope you are all keeping safe, busy and calm as much as possible. I thought it would be a good idea to start a daily ‘mental health check in’ discussion.

How are you today? Sometimes it’s hard to express what / how we feel, especially at these difficult times, so I thought we could start off with 5 emojis.

Simply pick 1 and leave a comment under this thread.

Staying connected has never been so important - let’s keep the discussions going! And remember, there’s always a pair of ears on here to listen. ❤️

I’ll start: 🙂

Blanka x



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  • SunshinedaffSunshinedaff Posts: 1,285 ✭✭✭✭✭

    Love this!

    🙂

  • RobertARobertA Posts: 1,173 Community Admin

    @Blanka_C

    Hi Blanka

    What a great idea.

    🙂

    I am enjoying my music and working on my Spanish with the extra time that lockdown gives me which is nice.

    😐

    I do miss human contact though. The lovely lady across the road lost her husband a couple of months ago, and I can’t pop in for a chat, a hug and a cuppa.

    Rob x

  • peter63peter63 Posts: 49 ✭✭✭

    Hi,

    Great way to have a quick check how people are doing 🙂

    My online session with my therapist yesterday really helped.

    Stay safe everyone, big hugs

  • RobertARobertA Posts: 1,173 Community Admin

    @peter63

    Hi everyone.

    Not a great day really. 😐️

    It has been glorious weather and normally the Island would be full of happy tourists, but the beaches were empty and the hotels, restaurants and bars are closed. I understand that this is a familiar scenario all over the World but people I know are dependent upon the relatively short summer season and are facing real problems now.

    I am incredibly lucky to be safe and unaffected financially and I feel a bit guilty about that. 😑

    Rob x

  • peter63peter63 Posts: 49 ✭✭✭

    Hi Rob,

    I can so relate to some of your comments.

    My wife and myself are reasonably stable financially and have everything that we actually need. I can't help but feel slightly guilty when I hear that so many are struggling badly in these troubled time's.

    Our hideaway holiday home on the Lincolnshire coast is off limits at present, rightly so, but I also recognise that many of the small businesses will never recover from the current financial situation.

    Take care and stay safe, best wishes,

    Regards Peter

  • SunshinedaffSunshinedaff Posts: 1,285 ✭✭✭✭✭

    😄+😐

    Smile because I had ordered some things and they arrived at last!

    Second as my back has been playing up much more, so much I needed help to actually move!

    To make me feel better I am painting while dinner is cooking.😄.

    I know, it is heartbreaking to see and hear people's lives have been devastated either by physical loss, or financial loss. I can't get my head around the numbers of people dying each day, it is so tragic.

    And now I have this 😂, the girls are watching a program set in Australia, they are now reciting each sentence to try and learn the accent!! Lol!! It is so funny😂😂. Like watching the program in triplicate! 😂

    Have a good evening,

    Lou x

  • Blanka_CBlanka_C Posts: 346 Community Admin

    Oh wow Lou, I tried to do an Australian accent just today too! How spooky is that. I don’t think I succeeded though. I have no idea how people do it. Then I tried American. Major failure 😂 I love accents so much! I bet if I tried a traditional Hungarian one no one on here would understand lol 😃

  • SunshinedaffSunshinedaff Posts: 1,285 ✭✭✭✭✭

    @Blanka_C

    Hi Blanka,

    😂😂😂Hahaha, you sound as good at accents as I am! Lol!

    It was funny, I usually end up laughing so much, everytime I try and say something. Mine all sound the same! 😂😂

    Hope you have a good weekend.

    🙂

    Lou x

  • peter63peter63 Posts: 49 ✭✭✭

    Morning everyone,

    Hope you are all managing to stay healthy and safe in these troubled time's.

    Just thought I'd check in and see how things are going for everyone, at present my partner and myself are managing OK. Trying to keep on doing little tasks and staying on top of things. Managing to eat healthy and staying reasonably happy and settled.

    Best wishes and good luck for the future to you all,

    Big virtual hugs and kisses to everyone

  • LouiseJLouiseJ Posts: 678 ✭✭✭✭

    @peter63

    Good morning Peter 😀,

    Lovely to hear from you, good to hear you are managing to keep on top of things, keeping occupied.

    😀 This is me this morning

    1. The sun is shining
    2. I just got a delivery slot at Tesco for middle of May! I am shocked! 😂

    Just going to potter in the garden, I couldn't do much yesterday as my feet and bones were very painful all day. They aren't great now, but I will take it very slow!

    Have a great day,

    Lou x

  • peter63peter63 Posts: 49 ✭✭✭

    Hi Louise J,

    Glad to hear you're doing OK.

    Yesterday was a bit of a bad day, along with my cancer I also have polymialga rhuematica and this flared up badly. Today it feels a little bit better.

    Take care and best wishes, hope you keep well.

    Big virtual hugs and kisses

  • LouiseJLouiseJ Posts: 678 ✭✭✭✭

    @peter63

    I am so sorry to hear it was difficult for you yesterday Peter, that is very painful I imagine.

    I hope today it continues to improve for you.

    Take care,

    Lou x

  • peter63peter63 Posts: 49 ✭✭✭

    Hi Lou,

    Hope your feet and legs are feeling easier.

    Take care, great to keep in touch

    Best wishes and good luck for the future xxxx

  • SunshinedaffSunshinedaff Posts: 1,285 ✭✭✭✭✭

    Good morning! I just had to post this here, as it had me crying with laughter, definitely helped my mental health!! 😂😂

    Lou x

  • RobertARobertA Posts: 1,173 Community Admin
    edited April 21

    @Sunshinedaff @peter63

    Haha Lou, that is really funny and yes, what a talented family.

    Hi Peter. I had a really bad day with my polymyalgia rheumatica too yesterday. In the circumstances, Mary and I chilled with a film for a change. We watched ‘The Keeper’ which is about Bert Trautmann, a German paratrooper prisoner of war in Lancashire during the Second World War. He stayed in England after the War and became a great goalkeeper for Manchester City. The story was much more than football though. Trautmann had been in the Hitler youth and had been awarded the Iron Cross. Needless to say, he was anything but popular in Lancashire, but he married a local girl and somehow eventually became accepted, even being awarded the OBE In 2004 for promoting Anglo German understanding. A fascinating film which would appeal equally to people who do not follow sport.

    Well, the three of us may be struggling with dodgy ailments but it’s great to talk and I am going for a 😁.

    Rob

    PS. Maybe we can do something online like the Dring family. “Aching All Over” perhaps 🤣

  • LouiseJLouiseJ Posts: 678 ✭✭✭✭

    @RobertA

    Hi Rob,

    That film sounds really interesting, I love films like that. Sometimes when we have tough days, a dvd day, or a sitting day is exactly what is needed.

    I have been taking it easier, the girls did P.E with 'you know who' in the garden. I joined in only by getting up and down as I tidied up the flower beds from tulip and snowdrop leaves! Haha. It has been very hot here today, so it has been hard work. I just came in to get Chilli Con carne started for dinner, watching the 5oclock round up, then going back out to finish if I can.

    I have been chuckling all afternoon over that video, it sums up the lunacy of the pre-lockdown days of people panic buying. I think one thing we are good at is finding the ability to see humour in dark days and in the midst of adversity. It does't belittle the tragic circumstances we find ourselves in, but does help to lift and re-energise our spirits.

    I hope you have had a better day today, have a good evening,

    Chat soon,

    Lou xx

  • peter63peter63 Posts: 49 ✭✭✭

    Hi Rob A,

    Sorry to hear you had a bad day with your Polymialga Rhuematica, didn't realise you also had this as well.

    Hope things have improved and you are feeling a little easier, when it flares up it's so painful and difficult to live with.

    Will definitely place the film on my to watch list sounds like a good watch. Many years ago I was a semi pro goalkeeper for a few years and played on a regular basis at a lower level for quite a while.

    Take care all my best wishes for the future, great to catch up with you.

  • LouiseJLouiseJ Posts: 678 ✭✭✭✭

    Good afternoon everyone 😀

    How are you doing today?

    Middle of the fifth week of lockdown already, if you anything like I am, the days are beginning to blur and merge!

    My day so far....😊

    How about yourself?

    Lou xx

  • RobertARobertA Posts: 1,173 Community Admin

    @peter63 @LouiseJ

    Hi Peter

    Wow, you were a goalkeeper. I seem to recall you mentioning the North East. Is that where you played? The closest I ever got was playing cricket with the great Colin Bell who played for Castle Eden in the days when footballers had some free time in the Summer. When he first played, we were at Blackhall Colliery. There were a lot of young lads outside the dressing room and they were very excited. When I asked a team mate what was going on, he said ‘They want Colin’. Haha, I hadn’t recognised him. They didn’t have the TV coverage in those days and anyway, he was the last person I was expecting to see sitting next to me. He was a very good cricketer too.

    Haha Lou, nice one. Just had a chilli and a glass of wine 🍷so 😀.

    Rob x

  • peter63peter63 Posts: 49 ✭✭✭

    Hi Rob A,

    My football experience was mainly in the South Yorkshire area, I still live in Sheffield which is my home city.

    My trips to the North East where all social visits and holidays etc. I have visited the beautiful island of Jersey a couple of times but this was a long time ago.

    Hope you and your family are all well and staying safe in these troubled time's.

    Best wishes and good luck for the future,

    Regards Peter

  • RobertARobertA Posts: 1,173 Community Admin

    @peter63

    Hi Peter

    Well, Sheffield is a great football city and also the birthplace of Joe Cocker, one of my all time favourite musicians.

    I am missing the football and the cricket too, but they are small things these days.

    Stay safe and keep in touch.

    Rob

  • RobertARobertA Posts: 1,173 Community Admin

    @Sunshinedaff

    Hi Lou

    We got up early and did a big shop today. We are lucky because Jersey is very quiet and the shops well organised and well stocked. Mary goes in wearing her mask and I stay outside.

    Extra treats today included ice cream and profitta rolls and we popped out a second time for wine. Don’t tell anyone. 😄

    Rob xx

  • MilliBMilliB Posts: 2

    Hi All,

    New to this site, I had a mastectomy and 6 lymph nodes removed in February, I've been very positive up till now and suddenly feel really anxious and tearful. The Consultant said it was Stage 3 but tests said low risk of it coming back. I'm not having chemo and have just started taking a hormone treatment. I've been having some really horrible nightmares and panic attacks. I know the lockdown isn't helping as I haven't actually seen any Nurses or Consultants since the beginning of March and have felt quite alone dealing with the recovery. I've had a couple of bad days, trying to keep busy but feeling a bit lost today.😓

  • RobertARobertA Posts: 1,173 Community Admin

    @MilliB

    hi Milli

    I read your story with particular interest as it is very similar to my own experience.

    I think the reality is that a cancer diagnosis is not the same as that of any other type of illness. Sometimes the emotional reaction comes afterwards, when you are released and life is supposed to slowly go back to normal again. You have become used to the medical people looking after you and suddenly they have gone and you feel somehow abandoned and alone. That is often the toughest bit and it is certainly what happened to me.

    My cancer is different of course but with any cancer we are usually dealing with lingering physical and/or emotional effects. I have been on hormone treatments for three years and the side effects took a bit of getting used to but I did and I am sure that you will too.

    I do hope that you have family and friends around you though I know it is particularly difficult during the lockdown. You certainly have friends in this community. We love to chat and support each other and we don’t mind when you are having a bad day.

    I hope that you will keep in touch.

    Rob x

  • LouiseJLouiseJ Posts: 678 ✭✭✭✭

    @MilliB , @RobertA

    Hi Milli,

    I am so glad you have found us here, I am so sorry to hear of your diagnosis. It is good news that the results were a low risk of reoccurrance, but I do understand where you are right now and how you are feeling.

    You are still in early days of recovery post-surgery actually, it can take quite a while to fully recover from the mastectomy. The medication you are on could also be contributing to how you are feeling, some of the side effects can impact your emotions and mental health, have you noticed any other changes since you have been taking them? How are you recovering physically? It may be a good idea to contact your breast care team by calling them and explain what you are experiencing. I am sure they will be very understanding and helpful.

    I agree with Rob, and everything he has said, the impact of a cancer diagnosis can take many months to surface properly. In the early days we focus on treatment etc and just getting through the physical part of that. The mental and emotional part can get 'lost' underneath it all, only surfacing after treatment has ended.

    I also had breast cancer, as have many others here in the community, all of us, even those with a different cancer, understand exactly where you are right now and can identify with you. Completely. You really are not alone Milli, we are all here to listen, and support you every day.

    We also have the lovely Karin, @KarinSieger . Karin is a specialist cancer counsellor and well-being advisor you can contact her directly , she has a discussion page. Lizzy @LizzyB73 is also available to chat with, she is a specialist oncology nurse, if you have any questions. Both Karin and Lizzy have also had breast cancer and so they too, absolutely understand what it is like.

    Please come and chat anytime, always here to listen,

    Lou x

  • MilliBMilliB Posts: 2

    Thank you Robert and Louise for your replies, I don't think this lockdown is helping, Im really missing my daughter and grandson and parents. Husband is able to go to work so it can be a long day. I'm usually gardening but weather in the Midlands has taken a change, the rain is good for the garden :) I will try to contact Karin and Lizzy for advice and support. I think I would be re-assured if I could actually see my consultant or GP face to face for re-assurance. Many thanks, keep in touch


    regards


    Milli

  • LizzyB73LizzyB73 Posts: 111 Oncology Specialist Nurse

    @MilliB

    Hi Milli

    I just wanted to touch base following your posts to see if I could help at all

    I understand how isolating it is for people right now who cannot access their healthcare professionals as they would do normally

    Please let me know if I can help


    Best wishes


    Liz 😍

    Liz Bradley
    Oncology Specialist Nurse | Oncology Service Manager @ Springfield Hospital
  • LouiseJLouiseJ Posts: 678 ✭✭✭✭

    @MilliB

    Hi Milli,

    I understand, the lockdown has separated many families who would otherwise be in regular face to face contact. You are able to contact them via Skype or Whatsapp etc aren't you? I know it doesn't match that person to person contact especially with your family.

    Good idea to contact Karin and Lizzy, give the hospital a call also, to speak with the breast care team.

    We have had pouring rain here all day too until just now, it has stopped and the sun is trying to come out.

    I hope you are having a better day today,

    Please keep in touch,

    Lou xx

  • KarinSiegerKarinSieger Posts: 98 Emotional Wellbeing Advisor

    Hi @MilliB Have been reading your posts here and seen your separate message to me. I will reply to that separately shortly.

    Very best.

    Karin

    Karin Sieger
    Psychotherapist | Cancer Counsellor  | Reg. MBACP (Accred)

  • KarinSiegerKarinSieger Posts: 98 Emotional Wellbeing Advisor
    Karin Sieger
    Psychotherapist | Cancer Counsellor  | Reg. MBACP (Accred)

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