What is your experience of kindness? The one you receive (or not). And the one you give.

KarinSiegerKarinSieger Posts: 67 Cancer Counselling Specialist
edited November 2019 in What's On Your Mind Today?

This forum is full of kindness! When we are ill, kindness can take on a different meaning and value.

✳️ We may get a lot, or not enough.

✳️ We may need different ways of kindness.

✳️ Illness can make us and others more or less kind.

What acts of kindness have you experienced recently that really mattered? And what kindness have you shown to others?

Or do you struggle with it all?

I hope today will be kind to you!

Karin

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Karin Sieger
Psychotherapist | Writer | Podcaster | MA, BA (Hons) | Reg. MBACP (Accred)
Helping you create new possibilities!

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  • RobertARobertA Posts: 809 ✭✭✭✭✭

    @KarinSieger

    Hi Karin

    What an interesting subject - I am so pleased you raised it and I hope you do not mind if I repeat a post I put out in February in appreciation of the kindness I have received since I was diagnosed with cancer. I was completely taken aback by the kindness of strangers, many of whom have become friends and if anything good has come out of having cancer it is the people I have met since my diagnosis.

    My wife Mary says that I am much kinder than I was before I was diagnosed with cancer and she is always right😉. Personally, I think that my illness has given me a greater understanding of what it is like to live with a scary disease. Since being diagnosed, I have also experienced clinical depression and there is nothing like personal experience to foster understanding. I used to think that people with depression were wimps but I know better now.

    AN APPRECIATION OF VOLUNTEERS

    Yesterday evening I attended a workshop in skincare at the local MacMillan Centre. It was conducted by ‘Look Good, Feel Better’ who are now offering workshops for men. It is a cancer support charity whose aim is to boost the physical and emotional wellbeing of people living with cancer. Look Good Feel Better say that they would not be able to operate without the help of volunteers, fundraisers and supporters. The evening was attended by a local store which gifted expensive skincare products and also by two hairdressers who offered practical advice. It was a lot of fun and appreciated by everyone who attended. 

    As I walked home, my thoughts returned to that day in 2016 when I was diagnosed with cancer. As we all know, a cancer diagnosis is a life changing event and it takes a lot of time and support to come terms with the situation. 

    Soon after my diagnosis, I was introduced to MacMillan Cancer Support and received incredible kindness and care from people whom I had never met before and who were giving me their time for nothing. Since then, I have received counselling by a qualified counsellor who gives her time for nothing. I have had tea and cakes made and served by volunteer carers at Jersey Hospice. They also provide volunteer drivers who ferry people to and from their homes. The café at the Hospital is staffed by volunteers. 

    In a recent article, @Sunshinedaff mentioned ‘Knitted Knockers’ whose products are made by volunteers who will never meet the beneficiary but who then send their products out with a lovely personalised message. 

    There are just too many people and groups to mention. People who make my life and that of many others much more tolerable, fun even, and who make a huge difference. 

    I often wonder how it is that politicians and entertainers get Knighthoods and gongs for doing their amply paid jobs when the people who really matter usually go unrecognised. 

    We hear so much about violence, greed and selfishness, but there are hundreds of thousands of kind, generous and caring people who give their time free of charge to people they don’t even know. 

    Rob x 

    PS. Thanks also to LiveBetterWith for giving us this platform to meet and chat and support each other. I love it.

  • KarinSiegerKarinSieger Posts: 67 Cancer Counselling Specialist

    @RobertA

    Hi Rob,

    Thanks so much for sharing this piece about your own experiences. That's very kind! We should not under-estimate the energy and resolve it can take to share. For many it may feel daunting. And that's ok, too.

    With best wishes.

    Karin

    Karin Sieger
    Psychotherapist | Writer | Podcaster | MA, BA (Hons) | Reg. MBACP (Accred)
    Helping you create new possibilities!
  • RobertARobertA Posts: 809 ✭✭✭✭✭

    @KarinSieger

    Hi Karin

    I am currently on a 6 week ‘Hope’ course run by MacMillan Cancer Support. Everyone knows about my love of Bakewell Tart and of a local café where Bridget, makes the best Bakewell Tart I have ever tasted. As a surprise for the group, I asked Bridget if she would bake a very large tart which I will produce at the last ‘Hope’ session next week. I agreed a price and popped in to pay this morning. Bridget had somehow found out that it was for the group and has refused any payment quoting how well her aunt was treated by MacMillan several years ago.

    I think it is another act of real kindness and it is wonderful to know that there are so many kind and generous people like Bridget in our lives.

    Rob x

  • KarinSiegerKarinSieger Posts: 67 Cancer Counselling Specialist

    @RobertA

    Hi Rob,

    How special is that!!!

    Kindness sows the seeds of kindness.

    It'll make the cake taste even better!

    Enjoy!

    Very best.

    Karin

    Karin Sieger
    Psychotherapist | Writer | Podcaster | MA, BA (Hons) | Reg. MBACP (Accred)
    Helping you create new possibilities!
  • SunshinedaffSunshinedaff Posts: 919 ✭✭✭✭✭

    @RobertA

    Hi Rob,

    This is brilliant, thank you for sharing it again. How lovely of Bridget to donate the cakes as a gift to you all. For the most part I find people are kind, it's just sometimes they need a helping hand in knowing what and how to express it.

    Lou xx

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