@Sunshinedaff I really liked reading your post. Thanks for writing it. I think that when things happen that shake everything up, it does make you act or think differently. I like the phrase about previously not 'colouring outside of the lines'!
I think that we cancer survivors become especially aware of our limited time on earth. Mortality is suddenly in your face. The cancer experience completely changed my perception of time and I realised that I was getting impatient and frustrated at spending it doing things I felt were meaningless or unimportant. I wanted to concentrate on what mattered to me and how I wanted to spend my time in future. I really believe that the cancer experience has changed how I think and made me feel ready for change as I do not want to waste a minute of whatever time I have left. I recently struck a bollard when reversing my car. A lapse of concentration which I would never have made before cancer as I love my car. My wife wanted to review how and why the incident had happened but I just wanted to forget it and move on. I think that the new me was difficult for my wife to handle at first, because she really wanted to get the old Rob back, but we are working together to making whatever time we have together as much fun as possible.
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