Connecting, re-connecting, making new friends, strengthening friendships...
Good afternoon from a very sunny and warm Dorset,
Since we have been in lockdown, having daily routines and activities suspended, I have spent more time catching up with people via social media, zoom etc. I have consciously tried to connect with friends more often simply because our usual way of meeting etc has been interrupted.
This week I arranged a video call including my sister and a relative I had not seen or spoken to for over 50 years!
My dad's sister and her family emigrated to Canada in the 1950's, they all visited in 1969, I remember a photo being taken of all us kids in the living room. I don't remember any conversations etc, I was so much younger than my cousins, I doubt they wanted to play! lol.
Well, since searching the family tree I began to search for them as the last address was obsolete. I googled the family every which way I could possibly go, clicking on every page that remotely had their name in. One day I found a page with a photo of this man, in a newspaper article, the photographer was a different name. But I looked at this picture and wondered....could you be my cousin? I had no reference point for what he looked like but I could see that perhaps there was a vague similarity to my brother....maybe.
I then did a search for the photographer using anything I could. Well FB came up trumps, I found her. Now what? It took me a looonnngg time to have the courage to send a message out of the blue to this stranger. I described myself and who I was looking for, then apologised! haha.
Guess what I hit the jackpot! I had actually found my cousin! His wife and I shared a couple of msgs, then it went quiet. I assumed they didn't really want to connect at all after all, why would they really . We don't know each other.
Until this week, my sister had a go. Got a response! I then sent a message and we arranged a video call over messenger. Wow! It was so great, to finally see and chat properly after all those decades. My cousin remembered our last meeting as families. They were so pleased and thankful that I hadn't given up the search. He told his mother, my aunt and she was delighted to hear we had been in touch too. Hopefully we will do it again and he will get his sister on the call too next time.
This afternoon I had the joy of a video call with Rob, Lesley we'll get you next time...tomorrow! haha.
I am going to surprise another friend soon with a call, it is so much fun, I don't know why I haven't done it more. 😁
I am getting to know people that I interact with more, it's a good thing.
How about you? Anyone else been surprised by a friend getting in touch, or have you been connecting with people who you don't often get to chat to?
It would be great to hear your stories, and some of the good things to come about from this time we are living in.
Looking forward to reading your stories,