This is a brilliant message!
I also saw Peter's post on the fb page, how great it is he is willing to share how he struggled with things, in order to encourage others to speak up, seek help and not remain silent.
You are right the stereotypical 'responses' we are conditioned by society to adopt can be so very unhelpful.
I think when you share your own experiences, it shines a light into the dark places of cancer, hopefully helping others to see a way through.
Thank you so much for your honesty and openness, I am sure it impacts both men and women.
It is good to see we are not alone or unique in having these struggles and good to know there is help available.
Hope you have a good day,
I would like to add my welcome to our friendly Community and wish you all the best for your surgery next Tuesday.
I see that you have already chatted with Lou who was able to describe her own experiences and pass on her great ideas.
My cancer is different, of course, but I have received a great deal of valuable support and encouragement from our members, and I hope that you will keep in touch and let us know how you get on.
Welcome to the forum.
It’s great that you’ve been to the GP, and that you’ve been given HRT treatment. It’s a step on the way to feeling better. All I can say, is that I finally got HRT patches at the start of this year, after 16 years of symptoms. They’ve made a huge difference to my life (and to everyone around me!) - but I understand that it’s a very individual choice, and not everyone wants or can take HRT.
I definitely understand your apprehension. I had to weigh up quality of life, protection for bone health, and heart health over the very small increase in Breast Cancer incidence. It was a no brainer for me after years of misery.
If you have concerns, do your research (I’m sure you have already!) and ask lots of questions of your doctor.
menopausedoctor.co.uk is one of the best sites for no nonsense, sensible advice and information about HRT. It helps dispel a few myths about taking HRT which I found really helpful.
Its important to realise that whilst HRT is great, there are also lots of other things you can also do to help with your symptoms, including improving your diet, tweaking your lifestyle etc. Sugar, alcohol, spicy foods all make my hot flushes worse. They’re under control with HRT, but if I have a sneaky glass of wine, or enjoy a curry on a Friday night, I know I’ll have a night of broken sleep, and flushes. It’s about recognising your triggers and working to make things better. HRT definitely helps, but you also need to be a bit canny!
I think it’s important to try and stay positive - and after coping for so many years with no help, I know that’s easier said than done!
It’s a very individual choice. If you decide to try the Evorel, it’ll be 2 - 3 months before you start to feel a real difference, so it’s important that you don’t think things are going to change immediately. You may also find you have some extra symptoms. This is perfectly normal. I found I had sore breasts, bloating and PMT like symptoms, so thought my HRT wasn’t working to begin with. The additional symptoms were temporary though, and disappeared after a couple of months. Had I known that there may be other symptoms thrown in the mix, I may not have worried so much! HRT is such an individualised treatment, so don’t worry if it has to be tweaked a few times until it’s right for you.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
I do want you to know that there is definitely light at the end of the tunnel. I feel so much better now that I did at the start of the year.
Ah, ok. I hope it all goes well for you next week. Recovery is different for everyone, yours might be better than mine, I was just out of chemo when I had surgery and so was very poorly afterwards.
The thing to remember is it will get better...it is a time thing, just take it day by day. Do the physio exercises as soon as you possibly can, this will help too.
The breast care nurses will tell you everything you need to do, what to check etc.
Assuming you have someone at home with you, or a friend who can help you. That would be necessary.
Let us know how you are doing when you feel up to it.
Lovely to hear from you and thanks for letting us know how you are getting on.
Hope you are signed off on Thursday and that you will get the results of your heart echo tests soo.
Take good care of yourself.
Thanks for getting back to us, much appreciated. It all sounds really good and I am pleased that it went so smoothly for you.
Well, you have earned that pint of beer and it will be worth an extra trip to the loo I would say.
That is great news to hear you have managed to come through the radiotherapy so well, although it does sound as if it was very uncomfortable at times! I am really pleased for you that you have had so few side effects. It is great to hear how well you have been cared for too by your medical team. When we go through these treatments we do get to know a little about the others who are being treated at the same time, I remember chatting to several others, being so glad for them when they got to the end while I still had a while to go. The world becomes a smaller place when you find yourself in this situation. So many others like us, all going through similar things.
I hope you continue to make a great recovery from all your treatment, long may that continue!
Oh @Julie20 This is one for you I think!
It is lovely to hear from you, we can see both your posts ok.
Will be thinking of you on Thursday when you see the radiotherapy oncologist, that will be another good thing to put behind you.
I have a dexa scan yearly since I finished treatment. It is because of the treatment and medication that can affect the bones.
If you are unsure why you are having the scans I would ask your oncologist. I am sure there will be an explanation.
I hope you get results re heart test soon, and that you find out about the thyroid function too.